Well, you can all send me the dunce hat and I'll go and sit in the corner!
Boy do I feel stupid, the reason I could not get a connection was such astupid mistake!
I pulled out the wrong fuse, the fuse cover was the wrong way up, I pulled out the ignition fuse instead of the lights fuse, doh!
Now have managed to upload the recommended tune (after saving the original) and the bike now starts and runs.
I have one fault code, sp1500 which will not clear (speedometer reading fault) so I now need to get the tank up and check all the connectors, I hope that will find a dodgy connection or earth.
Will report back when done
Thanks again for all the help supplied, shame I'm such a muppet.