I certainly appreciate Harleys and would consider owning one. My only issue is with many of the Harley riders I encounter. Those who know nothing about motorcycles outside the Harley brand. Those who dress up, ride their beautifully polished bikes to a restaurant or bar, and then back home again. You know the ones who look for every plate glass window they pass in order to catch a glimpse of how cool they look.
Now, the ones I've encountered out in the middle of nowhere, riding bug splattered bikes, they tend to be pretty good folks.
As to patches, well I guess that assumes you need a vest to put one on. Everything I wear when I ride is functional. Wicking shirt, dragin jeans or armored riding pants, armored mesh or leather jacket, boots, gloves and helmet. To me a vest is just part of a costume, and patches are like bumper stickers on a car. If I want to know if your kid is an honor student, I'll ask. If I want to know how you feel about certain brands of motorcycles, I'll ask.
But, that's simply one old man's opinion, I could be wrong.