T, hang in there. "What could have been" is just that. It wasn't "what happened" and "what happened" is that everyone is OK.
Great advice, Lonnie. I also thought that T had handled himself well given the circumstances.
BoogerDave, I agree with you in wondering if I should have encouraged my wife to learn to ride herself. I tend to follow her and cover her back. She still stalls on the occassional uphill stoplight so I hang back and hold up traffic until she can get it going. Part of me is so proud of her but another part of me is fearful of the guilt that I would feel if she got hurt.