think got close to source of the wiring problem.
with ignition turned on,engine kill in On position, and If I connect -ve ground to Engine management relay coil.everything powers up and able to start the engine.
so think ECU relay wasnt getting picked up and in drawing it appears that its -ve from alaram control unit or the harness connector (photo attached).
My 05 doesn't have alarm unit and does someone know where the -ve wires in that harness connector end up on the other end of harness.when i checked for continuity to ground it is open at he connector