Yes, that is where it is. Thanks. I found it shortly after my last post, and have been riding since. It is behind the small cover held with Torx screws, not behind the side cover with the relay. It is about mid way between the sides of the bike, and as pointed out, very awkward to access.I used 2 pair of long needle nose pliers and got it that way. Very short lead out from the harness, and in my case, hidden by a breather hose. What I did was pull the male spade right out of the plug. Its back together, but I still have the same issue of not starting. Click, click,click, click, start. Or not.
The starter also sounds like it is laboring more than it should. Brand new Odyssey battery. So, I guess it will have to come off again.