Oh hey tdragger! Good to "see" ya! Yea, I'm still here, hangin on. You know you only hear from me when I have a problem- I guess I've been pretty lucky that way...
maybe that relay was stuck... but here is the end of this story: I was putting everything back to together, resigned to ride on fog lights until I could find a good place to land for service. It hasn't been that long since the service it had, 500 miles? but I thought, before I put the seat back on, I'll take off the negative batt terminal and see if something was hiding under the contact- it wasn't loose, wasn't dirty, connection and cable looked OK, wiped it off, thin smear of dielectric grease and back on it went, turned ignition to make sure all the other stuff still worked and - you guessed it- let there be LIGHT! Woowho! Guess I need to pull out my old copy of Zen And The Art for a reread. Problem solved, nothing to see here, folks!