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http://pdm60.com actually came with an extra ground cable (that's supposed to go from the battery to the chassis) just to guarantee there was enough capacity there to pump up to an extra 60 amps through there. It's going on any day now once I get my bike lift.
As for the Eastern Beaver kit install, personally I'm only going to test it with the H4 coupler that it came with. Once I know it works as it should (it almost certainly will, I'm just paranoid) i'm going to cut the wiring and finish it up with Posi-loks and then cover the tightened Posi-loks with shrink tubing to make it "permanent". Electrical tape sucks, but shrink tubing is the ****. I don't ever foresee a need to remove the relays for the lifetime of the bike; by that standard I should probably solder the cables but Posi-loks are permanent enough.