Not to hijack the thread . . . similar -- my wife (timing is everything) happened to be in the US when Tiananmen Square happened, and she decided not to go back. We both happened to be in Boston (I was in the Air Force). After we seemed to hit it off, I found out where she was raised, and in a similar situation as you, I was worried.
Several weeks later, as luck would have it, my colonel was going to join me in a meeting at Warner Robins AFB, and his schedule was such, he asked me to drive to Atlanta to pick him up around midnight, and had him alone in the car as we drove back to Warner Robins. I posed the question then: if this were serious, what would it do to my career ? He didn't hesitate: "I wouldn't worry about it."
Fourteen months later, we were married. We had a delayed honeymoon, so I reported back to work the following Monday.
Funny thing, my badge wouldn't work. So I banged on the door, and after a bit, one of the guys (who had attended the wedding), cracked open the door and said, "Oh, it's you. You need to go see Security."
And I lost everything.
But I was moved shortly thereafter, and the colonel ended up being right - it didn't matter for my career, and life has been good ever since.