I have the wife trained well (don't tell her I said that
) ... her brother nearly killed them both on a 650 when they were teens and she was deathly afraid of bikes when we got married, so I basically had to start over with her. She still doesn't like bikes in general but enjoys riding more lately (after 23 years she better). She knows not to fiddle-**** around back there shifting her weight around looking for crap, and doesn't do any leaning or backseat riding since she doesn't ride a bike herself. I've seen her drive everything else from a Fiat X-19 to a Mack truck with air brakes without hesitation, she just has an aversion to two wheels crashing, (if I was riding shot-gun while my retarded brother wrecked into a mall parking-lot island in broad daylight, I'd probably have issues as well). Get a little booze into her and it's "Kelly, take me somewhere on the bike" ...
So I really do enjoy having her along on rides.
It's my 4 riding buddies, "
buddies" with that scare the **** out of me. We typically go on a couple trips a year together (Delmarva bike week is one) and I trust them when we ride in close proximity. I typically ride #2 (since I go too fast for their Hardley's) and I can trust #1 not to panic stop or make bad choices that endanger the rest of us. #3 and 4 can stay tight without having to worry they will crowd me or be day-dreaming when slowing, stopping or changing lanes. They trust me not to do the same and cause them to be in a bad situation at a bad time. Basically, we don't have to worry about what the other guy is going to do.
When the group gets bigger and the "part-timers" go with, that's when **** gets nerve-wracking . I could see being in a large group of riders where I have to worry what their next move is going to be, and then having a car (like that head-on) suddenly get in the mix. Arrrgg!
We've had potentially serious incidents with cars happen before when it's been just us 4 or less, and I trust they will do what they have to without worrying what I'll do, and vice-a-versa. We've become so familiar, they expect me to either be tapping on the window of the offending vehicle to "speak" to the driver, or caving in the door with my steel toes. #1 will be in front of them so they don't "rabbit" before the rest get to "chat" with them. We've had some good times with dangerous cagers that did stupid ****, it makes for lively conversations at the bar later
.
But when the numbers get big, everything changes ... I'm scared for the whole group. The dynamic is different, some don't know what direction to go, whether to brake, accelerate ... **** themselves ... what. The bigger the group, typically the slower the speed ... and that makes even more problems. While before it was 4 guys traveling a little faster than traffic, now it's become 10, 20, 50 or more holding up traffic .... not fun for me at all.
Having to "make room" for that passing car that encounters oncoming traffic ain't any fun when some in your own group don't know what to do.
I'm very uncomfortable in larger groups of bikes, claustrophobic.